Why do some lesbians enjoy performing oral sex on strap-ons and other sex toys like dildos?
“A straight male asked me ‘Why don’t lesbians like flashlights?’” Scarcella said: “It seems like an easy answer BUT is it? Because we know many lesbians who will suck on their girlfriend’s lesbian sex toys.”
Popular queer vlogger Arielle Scarcella recently teamed up with fellow YouTuber Amber’s Closet to answer this question, along with lots of other queries submitted by viewers.
Other questions address other nuances of lesbian sex and female sexuality, including “As a ‘stud’ am I expected to have my own strap-on toys?” and “If you’re female but want a female, should you become butch?”
There are obviously no universal answers to these questions, but check out the video above to hear what Scarcella and Amber have to say about their own experiences.
Unfortunately, lesbians seem to bear the brunt of stereotypes and common misconceptions more than most. With statements such as “All lesbians are vegetarians,” “All lesbians hate men,” and “Lesbians are all feminists, right?” making the rounds, these popular myths all creep into the minds of many. But above all, the most famous fable by far is what lesbians sex get up to in the bedroom. Here are seven of the most common misconceptions about lesbian couples sex.
They Only Use Dildos
Just like straight couples, there are millions of different ways lesbians can have sex, if not more. Although there is a huge variety of specifically designed lesbian sex toys available such as strap-ons and double-sided dildos it is not absolutely necessary to use them. In fact, many lesbians prefer tongues, fingers and even fisting to reach orgasm.
They Use lesbian strap-on Because They Miss Men
Firstly strap-on toys do not represent a penis. In fact, it is the last thing they are thinking about. The sole purpose of using strap-ons or penis toys or rabbit vibrators or any other form of sex toys for pleasure. Secondly, it works! Yes, a penis is designed to fit inside a vagina to make babies and procreate but it also feels extremely good when doing so. A strap-on is just the same, yet it doesn’t really look like a penis. Perfect.
Lesbian Bed Death
Lesbian bed death is a term used to describe the point in a relationship where things may have slowed down a bit with regards to sex. Many reasons could be possible for this, some of which include lack of female sexuality, the passion may have dwindled or even having too much sex. However, this can also happen with every other relationship on the planet, only lesbians seem to get a special name for it. Lesbians don’t experience this phenomenon any more than hetero couples.And lots of lesbian couples prefer using female sex toys to get more fun, just like the straight couples.
The last lesbians sex scene of Park Chan-wook’s new erotic thriller The Handmaiden prominently features a sparkly pair of silver Ben Wa balls. Earlier in the film, they’d been used as a weapon; now they’re serving a very different purpose. Sook-hee (Kim Tae-ri) and Lady Hideko (Kim Min-hee) are fully naked, facing each other while precariously balanced on their knees. They’re in what looks like a ship’s first-class cabin, resplendent with plush, colorful furniture and ornate frames on the walls.
As they fit their bodies together and insert the lesbian’s sex toys (Ben Wa balls) inside their respective vaginas, a merry tinkling noise accompanies the women’s giggles — Sook-hee and Hideko are, for the first time, fully and completely at ease with each other. Their beautiful, lithe bodies are arranged in perfect symmetry, just like the room around them. The scene is an immaculately arranged tableau.
The film share a visual sumptuousness.They are veritable marvels for the senses. Each one delights, and indulges, in the gorgeousness of the women they feature, especially when those women get undressed and used lesbians sex toys. The resulting depictions of lesbian sex as choreographed by these male directors are, at best, well-intentioned attempts to honor the beauty of queer female sexuality — but at worst, they’re formalist experiments in symmetry and duality that can easily become flat-out fetishistic.