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Choosing dildos require a few decisions as well. The most obvious, perhaps, is size. You can go small, large, straight, curved.The options in Dildo-land are virtually endless.
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As they fit their bodies together and insert the lesbian’s sex toys (Ben Wa balls) inside their respective vaginas, a merry tinkling noise accompanies the women’s giggles — Sook-hee and Hideko are, for the first time, fully and completely at ease with each other. Their beautiful, lithe bodies are arranged in perfect symmetry, just like the room around them. The scene is an immaculately arranged tableau.
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Some things you should know about relationships between queer women:
There isn’t always lesbian strap-on.
There isn’t always sex toys.
There isn’t always a butch.
There isn’t always just one butch.
Occasionally, use penis toys.
Occasionally, use penis toys and a lesbian strap-on.
Sex is complicated and individual. I find that it’s best to avoid assumptions.It has been my experience that in most lesbian couples,lesbian strap-on is rarely used for sex.
Do you need a minute to process that? Sex with or without a penis?!? Yes, it happens. And it’s pleasurable beyond belief.
Now, that being said of sex toys of all shapes and sizes are used by all different kinds of people in bed — including lesbians strap-ons or vibrating panties. There are really no rules or patterns as to who likes to use what. To each her own. Half the fun in life is discovering what your pleasure is, and everyone is different.